Currently, I’m gobbling up the learnings of IFS maestro Dick Schwartz, specifically his book, You Are The One You’ve Been Waiting For. I have become particularly struck by his idea of this “drive for redemption” in relationships. So, I thought I’d flesh it out for you all as I think you may find it…
“Errrr….Space!!? From me?” It’s a hard pill to swallow for some. Myself included! But what if I told you that your response to your partner’s need for space is giving you soooooo much juicy info about what you’re thinking and believing about yourself? Yep! If when your partner sets a boundary or says that they…
Getting triggered ain’t fun. But it’s not supposed to be. Triggers feel pretty uncomfortable because they show us where we’re not free. They hold a mirror up to our own self-made prison – our beliefs about ourselves and others – and show us the healing work we need to do. Err… yay for that! Oh,…
There’s a strong message in the self-help world that says, “speak only of what you want to bring into existence”. And while it is true that what you give focus to manifests, I think this messaging can also backfire when it comes to supporting a true expression of vulnerability. I realised recently that I have…