How Do You Respond When Your Partner Asks For Space?
“Errrr….Space!!? From me?”
It’s a hard pill to swallow for some. Myself included!
But what if I told you that your response to your partner’s need for space is giving you soooooo much juicy info about what you’re thinking and believing about yourself?
Yep!
If when your partner sets a boundary or says that they need space and it brings up a strong feeling of insecurity, inadequacy, unlovability – perhaps layered with anger or the need to manipulate or take control –
Then that is your sign that you are putting your sense of self-worth in the hands of another.
For relationships to thrive, we need to unhook from the need for our partners to give us the feedback we are looking for that lets us know we’re OK, that we’re loveable…
..that we’re worthy.
Because people are fickle. No one, least of all our relationships can ever jump through enough hoops to continuously prove to us that we are loveable, worthy and enough.
We need to convince ourselves that we are enough! From experience, I know that’s not always an easy feat.
We have to learn (and our relationships help us do this, every time our partners make a decision that doesn’t involve us) to keep reassuring ourselves and the parts of us that don’t feel worthy and loved.
So every time your partner triggers a sense of inadequacy in you, all it means is that the relationship between you and you is the one that needs working on.
Maybe ask yourself, “how is my partner’s desire for space an opportunity to build the relationship between me and me?”
“What do I need right now?”
“What’s going to bring me back to a feeling of connection in myself?”
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