The Power Of Vulnerability

There’s a strong message in the self-help world that says, “speak only of what you want to bring into existence”.

And while it is true that what you give focus to manifests, I think this messaging can also backfire when it comes to supporting a true expression of vulnerability.

I realised recently that I have a bit of a self-sabotaging belief around expressing my true vulnerability.

It’s like, if I tell people I feel insecure about this thing, will they think I’m weak? Will they think I’m uncool? Will they like me if they really know how I feel? And does it make me this forever insecure person now?

Does the Universe hear the words “I’m insecure about..” and then give me more insecurity?

Maybe if I ignore what I’m vulnerable about and stuff it down deep enough, it may eventually disappear?

I’ve come to realise that the fear of being vulnerable is linked to the fear of being abandoned.

Many of us worry that if people really knew us and really knew our insecurities and vulnerabilities, they wouldn’t like us.

And this may have been true when we were 7 years old in the school playground. Showing vulnerability meant we would be a laughing stock, it would mean mass humiliation, it would mean a bully “had won”.

But now, as adults, we have our chosen family, our community, our friends who love us.

Vulnerability needs safety and trust. It’s uncomfortable being vulnerable. Vulnerability requires that we take our walls down and our masks off and expose what we’ve been protecting!

Eeeeeeek!!

There are people who will not judge you for being open and vulnerable. Surround yourself with those people.

Being guarded with your emotions is like putting yourself in a cage. You deserve to fully express yourself and you deserve to have people that love and support the true you.

You deserve to let yourself experience a true expression of you.

Here’s to being vulnerable!